Every Husband Needs To Know | 1 Peter 3:7

Every Husband Needs To Know | 1 Peter 3:7

Every Husband Needs To Know | 1 Peter 3:7

How well are you fulfilling your responsibilities as a husband? Do you really know your wife? Do you know her desires, her likes and dislikes? Are you one with your wife in everything?

Well, we want to address the husbands. By the way, we have already done a talk regarding wives, and click here to read the script or watch the video.

Let’s see what Peter is speaking to the husbands, under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit.

1 Peter 3:7

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

Peter here is addressing the husbands on how to live with your wives. If you see the context of this passage, we find that the instructions to the husbands are general instructions given to all Christians regarding respect or honor. Peter already wrote in 1 Peter 2:17 to honor everyone and honor the emperor. Now Peter asks husbands to honor or respect their wives.

To honor everyone is a general instruction to all people and now Peter says husbands respect your wives. You do not deal with your wife as the world deals, you deal with your wife as a citizen of heaven. In the first century, people never valued women or children. God has a standard as to how husbands are to behave.

Peter also starts the instruction with the words ‘in the same way.’ This is again continuation of the theme on submission that Peter has already stated.

1 Peter 2:13

Submit yourselves for the Lord’s sake to every human authority.

Should a husband submit to her wife? Yes, both the husband and the wife are to submit and respect one another. Paul too recommends this:

Ephesians 5:21

Submit to one another out of reverence to Christ.

Now, let us see what is Peter’s specific instructing the husbands.

1. Know Your Wife

Have a good knowledge of your wife.

1 Peter 3:7

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives,..

Considerate means showing careful thought. So husbands show careful thought to your wife with the knowledge you have from God.

Knowledge here is the knowledge that would be beneficial for a good husband-wife relationship. It can be knowledge of God’s purpose and principles for marriage. Knowledge can be the understanding of the wife’s desires, her frustrations. Knowledge of her strength in physical, emotional and spiritual realms.

A husband who lives with such knowledge will greatly enrich his marriage relationship. However, such knowledge can only be gained through regular study of God’s word and regular private fellowship between the husband and wife.

How to be considerate?

Live according to knowledge.

Before coming to Christ, we lived in ignorance. But now we have gained knowledge in Christ. you need to know your role as a husband in Christ and be considerate.

2. Treat Your Wife As the Weaker Partner

1 Peter 3:7

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner…

Treat your wife as a weaker partner. In the original Greek, it is written as treat your wife as the weaker vessel.

What is vessel referring to? The vessel refers to our body. Remember both men and women are vessels. 2 Corinthians 4:7-9 Paul says we have this treasure in jars of clay. Our body is the vessel.

So in general sense Peter is saying that the women has the weaker body.

A women is weaker on the basis of physical strength.

See for example any sports. In all sports we have men compete with men and women with women. There is no Olympics sport where men and women compete with each other except for the mixed doubles in Tennis where both the teams are again equal with a male and a female player.

Generally Men have a genetic advantage. Men has the XY chromosome which produces a kind of strength and stamina. Women has the XX chromosome. Women has a remarkably weaker built that God has set up.

So how does a man respond to wife as a weaker partner?

A man needs to protect, provide, lead and take initiative in the marriage

Paul supports the same idea.

Ephesians 5:23-29

23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—

A women is weaker on the basis of authority in the marriage.

The husband is the head of the family and the leader of the family. So in terms of leadership and authority a women is weaker (lesser in degree) in a family setup that God has established. So Peter says, do not misuse your authority, be considerate.

Third area of weakness is that wives are more emotionally sensitive.
Women are more emotional than men. While this is also a strength for a women, they are likely to hurt deeply by conflict within a marriage. Therefore, if a husband is inconsiderate in her marriage, he will easily hurt his wife.

So how does a husband you treat his wife?

Do not be harsh with her, do not fill your marriage with criticism or conflict but rather be positive and affirming, understand her and honor her as a weaker person. Knowing her as a weaker vessel you will be tender to her, you will be kind and meek to her. You will be protecting and taking good care of her.

3. You And Your Wife Are Fellow Heirs Of The Gift Of Life.

1 Peter 3:7

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

My wife and are fellow heirs of the of the gift of life. We have an eternal inheritance. Both my wife and I are born again by God the Father and we both are God’s children. We are an eternal inheritance that our Father God will give at the second coming of Christ. So both the husband and wife will share in the glory of Christ. Husband and a wife may have different roles in marriage but we are both equal before God and are joint heirs of the Kingdom of God.

4. Respect Your Wife

After telling all of above regarding our wife, Peter now says to respect your life. The respect to your wife is shaped on your knowledge of your wife as a weaker vessel and the knowledge that she is a fellow heir of yours in Christ. Earlier we were ignorant of this knowledge. That means we show respect to our wives based on the knowledge of her weakness and knowledge of her glory.

Respect include affirming words both privately and in public.

5. You Cannot Be A Good Christian Without Having A Good Relationship With Your Spouse.

1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

If you live with your wife, knowing her, respecting her, knowing that she is a weaker vessel and that she is an heir of Christ, your prayers will be answered. Otherwise, your prayers will be hindered.

This is applicable to both the wife and the husband because Peter says your, not you. If husbands and wives do not have a good relationship, it affects your relationship with God and of course your prayer will be hindered.

There is not effective Christian life without a prayer life. And there is not effective prayer life if you do not maintain a good relationship with your spouse. A broken relationship makes it very hard to kneel

6. A Husband Must Never Allow His Wife To Be An Excuse For Sin.

There are many husbands in the Bible who started well but ended up in sin because of their wives. This principle was ignored by Solomon (1 Kings 11:3-8), Ahab (1 Kings 21:25), Abraham (Genesis 16:2), and perhaps even Adam (Genesis 3:6). A husband must never allow his wife to be an excuse for sin.

Dear Husbands, you have a responsibility and you have a leadership role to be fulfilled. So, taking the time to develop a good marriage is God’s will. It is serving God. It is a spiritual activity pleasing in the sight of God. May God give you the grace to be an excellent husband.

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